What Makes a Great Love Story?

The shifting sands of human relationships have got me asking this question—What makes a great love story?

This is an important question for writers because, in our hearts, it’s something we all aspire to write. It’s like hoping to capture lightning in a bottle. But this is also a difficult question and I struggle even to frame the terms of reference. I’d love to hear your additions to this list and/or your own answers:

1. Should it be a doomed love (Romeo and Juliet) or a happily ever after (fairy tales and every Disney movie)?

2. What are the archetypes that great love stories tap into?

3. Are the great love stories always about young people and first love? If so, why? (I ask because I am now growing older and appreciate the special qualities of mature love.)

4. Is there a special appeal in stories of lovers torn apart who are reunited later in life?

5. Is a great love possible without tribulations and tests (or death)?

6. What, in the 21 st century, constitutes a great love story? Or does it matter what particular times we live in?